Wife Threatens To Ban Husband From Delivery Room If He Doesn’t Name Their Baby A Gender-Neutral Name
A man having tension with his wife because of her desire to give their baby a gender-neutral name posted his experience on r/AmItheA**hole (AITA) in hopes of getting the internet’s perspective on the situation.
The subreddit allows people to offer advice and state whether or not other Redditors are wrong in their personal lives.
The father-to-be is at odds with his wife over their baby’s gender-neutral name.
The man and his wife, both 27, have been together for eight years and married for two. The couple are expecting their first child in June. He says they’ve talked about having kids before and the logistics behind it, but names have never been an issue for them.
That’s until they find out the sex of their baby.
His first choice for a name was Juliette, with Orion, Violet, Scarlet, and Dakota as other options, but his wife had other ideas.
She wanted to give their child a gender-neutral name, like Hunter, Scout, Payton, Rory, Morgan, and Kai, in case she decided to transition from female to male. He felt that his thought process didn’t match.
“I mentioned to him that most people who transition end up changing their name to one that they identify with, so even if we were to give them a gender-neutral name, they might end up changing it,” a- he writes.
“I also mentioned that some people change their names just because my grandmother was one of those people and I used her as an example, but she won’t budge.”
She was so adamant about her choice that she threatened to kick him out of the delivery room if he didn’t agree.
He also writes that the mom-to-be said she will “tell the nurses and doctors ahead of time not to ask me for the baby’s information for the birth certificate.”
Not knowing what to do, the man poses the question of whether he was the asshole to the readers.
Luckily for him, commentators agreed he wasn’t the a**hole (NTA).
Most people agreed with the man’s view that most people who transition end up changing their name.
“Believe it from a trans person, your wife thinks way too much about this,” the top commenter wrote. “Your child can always change their name whenever they feel like it, so choosing a gender-neutral name won’t matter much.”
Another commonality among commentators is how they felt the woman was overreacting to something that is very unlikely to happen and would take years to come if it did. Some have suggested that the woman places her own desires on her child.
“I think serious advice should be in order as personally I would be concerned that she is projecting something she wants onto your child,” another commenter wrote.
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“Some parents think they are helpful in guiding a child from an early age not to identify with his gender, which is no more helpful than forcing a woman who prefers pants, short hair and without makeup to wear dresses and highlights This is a real problem that must be solved before the child is born.
Naming a baby is certainly something both parents need to agree on, but it also needs to be done in the best interests of the child, and basing the name on an extremely unlikely scenario is one way not to. .
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