Teenager praised for refusing to share room with mum’s new baby: ‘I said no’

A teenage girl has been praised for refusing to allow her half-brother to share her bedroom, after her mother said that was where the new baby would sleep.

The 17-year-old took to Reddit’s Am I The A**hole forum asking for advice on the situation, using the username u/Perfect_Ad5464, explaining that she lives with her mother, son stepfather and his 19-year-old half-brother.

They have a three-bedroom house, consisting of the master suite, his brother’s room, his bedroom, and the basement, which also has a bathroom.

But contrary to the trend for new parents, she said: “When I found out my parents were pregnant, one of their first requests was for the baby to share my room.

File photo of a woman and a baby. A team raged against sharing her room with her baby stepbrother.
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“I immediately declined because they wanted a newborn baby to sleep not in their room, but in mine, as I finished my senior year of high school and prepared for college.

“I said no and the baby should sleep in his room, and when he was old enough to have his own room, I would have moved out by now.”

She claimed she was planning to move into a friend’s flat for “cheap”, but in the meantime she was still against sharing the space with her new sibling.

The teenager continued: “They got really mad at me and told me how stressed they would be after having the baby. Now I understand pregnancy is hard and all but I really don’t want to have to listen to a baby cry, make them run around my room when I sleep, do my homework, etc.”

She told her mother and stepfather it would be best if the baby stayed with them or she moved to the basement, although she admitted it would be “boring”.

The student took to the internet for advice, acknowledging she may have been ‘rude’, adding: ‘But I feel like it’s going to be an incredibly stressful time, even in the four months I’m staying here, you know with the end of school, college entrance exams, waiting to see if I got in, etc. all the work.

“And on a more personal note, I hate babies, they freak me out. I think I could be wrong because their room is more crowded than mine, and they might struggle to make room. And my parents have their ideas yk so i might just be biased so am i wrong??”

The message, which can be read hereamassed over 8,000 interactions, while the best comment, from Anneisangy, was voted over 12,000 times.

He said, “NTA. Baby cries a lot at night and it’s not your responsibility. You won’t be able to sleep all night if the baby moves in with you.”

Others agreed, Mortgage_gurl saying, “It’s stressful for real parents to have their baby in their room, but it’s okay if the girl has the baby in her room? Wow.”

“They want her to be the night nurse. Maybe the day nurse too,” _coolbluewater_ added.

And on a more personal note, I hate babies, they freak me out.”


Lipslikemorphinee thought, “They’ll use the excuse of not looking after the baby at night because they don’t want to bother him going in and out every few hours. NTA.”

Rhuthbarb commented: “The sex of the baby doesn’t matter. Parents are selfish and sacrifice their daughter’s privacy and sleep. Yes, babies are stressful. But the stress comes from the parents, not the siblings and sisters.”

International-Rice10 joked, “Daughter? You mean silly third parent.”

Plantsandanger agreed, saying, “They expect the 17-year-old daughter to look after all night, I think. If it’s ‘too stressful’ for the actual parents to sleep in the same room as the newborn, it would also be “too stressful” for either parent to be up at night to care for the newborn. They expect op to be mother-sister.

Seed_Planter72 wrote, “With their oldest child turning 19, this must have come as a surprise to the baby. They are definitely planning on having OP raise this baby for them.”

As Both_Cartographer831 raged: “They are beyond selfish. I wouldn’t go into contact with anyone who was actually dumb enough to even ask for something that ridiculous.”

The table below, provided by Statisticalshows sleep across the US

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According Stanford Children’s Healthnewborns spend much of their time sleeping, but they often wake up every three hours during the night.

They said, “Because they have small stomachs, they have to wake up every few hours to eat. Most babies don’t start sleeping through the night (6-8 hours) until they are at least 3 months old.

“But it can vary a lot. Some babies don’t sleep through the night until they’re a year old. In most cases, your baby will wake up and be ready to eat at least every 3 hours.”

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Dora W. Clawson