Pregnant Daughter Bans Her Furious Mom From The Delivery Room
The Delivery room is meant to be a safe space where a woman undergoes one of the most raw and vulnerable experiences of her life; ego and stress are not welcome. Unfortunately, a pregnant woman faces a dilemma because her mother is furious for not being invited to see her give birth.
The future mother shared with Reddit that she is about to welcome her first child with her fiancé, to the delight of her family since it is the first grandchild. However, her parents are divorced and she is not on good terms with her mother, but her relationship with her father and parents is very strong.
“My grandma is truly my second mum and she’s my security blanket. She’s my best friend – we talk every day, have coffee together, shop, call with all my happy and sad moments , and I can’t imagine giving birth without her,” the mom-to-be said.
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The hospital where she gives birth allows two more people in addition to the partner, she naturally assumed that her mother-in-law and grandmother would be the ones to support her.
However, during her baby shower, her mother began to say how excited she was to be in the delivery room to welcome her first grandchild.
“I never thought my mum would consider being in the room because if we stay together too long we argue,” the pregnant woman said.
She took her mother aside to tell her privately that she stepmother and grandma would be there to support her; “My mum ranted about how disrespectful it was and a slap in the face for giving me life.”
“She was so loud almost everyone heard her and my dad (who stays as far away from her as possible) even pushed me away while I was crying to get away from her.”
The woman agrees that “telling her at the baby shower clearly made a scene but she was going to find out anyway. I know it’s my mum but we’re not close.”
The woman also explained that her decision sparked a rift in the family. “My dad’s family is okay with me, but my mom’s family texted me about being an awful girl and she tried her best…” she declared. “My fiancé’s family is split in two with opinions because they don’t really know her well or the situation.”
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People immediately jumped to the mom-to-be’s defense and supported her decision.
“You are the one giving birth and yours is the only opinion that matters. You need people to support you and help you. Anyone who puts you down and criticizes you, or tries to pressure you or control you, don’t shouldn’t be there,” one commenter said.
“Your mother had no reason to assume or publicly announce that she would be in the delivery room. The very way she did this was an attempt to manipulate you into being there. And her actions when you told her privately that she wouldn’t be in the delivery room speaks volumes about why she shouldn’t be there.”
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“The most important thing during labor is to be as stress-free as possible (as much as you can push a human out of you). Becoming stressed not only prolongs labor, but can lead to dangerous complications for you and the baby. “, said another.
“Seems to me your mom is more embarrassed by how she looks like she’s not included,” one commenter remarked.
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